Are you ready to stop questioning your power and start living from it?
When women discover I work exclusively with men, the first question they ask is: Why?
This is followed by the assumption that I coerce men into becoming more heart-centred, emotionally fluent, or less toxic, when nothing could actually be further from the truth. I do not help, guide, or change men, in fact I don’t even claim to have answers for you. Working with me is about living into bigger, bolder, more powerful questions.
As my client we’ll have insightful and transformative conversations around the nature of your greatest desires, most paralyzing fears, and most enlivening dreams. I join you as you wade into the uncharted waters of your own limitless potential. I point you to look in new directions that make what once seemed impossible, inevitable.
There is a reason I am so impactful in this realm. I have a talent for seeing the brilliance, power, and unlimited possibility of the untamed male spirit.
I refuse to collude with distorted female and societal narratives of male toxicity, and instead offer up the rare and miraculous gift of being accepted, respected, and invited by a receptive, grounded, intelligent woman - exactly as you are.
I choose to serve men because I deeply honour them, and not for their potential or who they may become if they behave or perform a certain way. I am captivated by men’s drive, rational thought, unique perspective, and innate masculine creative power.
I do not work with lost, broken, or damaged men because I simply do not see men as lost, damaged, or broken.
Nor do I work with egotistical, macho, misogynist, or toxic men because these labels aren’t fit for human beings.
Instead, I challenge men to wake up to how truly powerful you are because I want to live in a world of confident self-realized male creators that belong first to themselves, second to their chosen families, and ultimately to their tribes. I work with men because this world needs amazing fathers, brothers, sons, and husbands who claim and live into these roles with autonomy, sovereignty, and impassioned spirit.
It is my belief that one can not empower something that is innately powerful, fortify something that is innately strong, or fix something that was actually never broken.
Why am I so invested in men living into powerful personal narratives?
My father was larger than life itself, and as a child, the truth of this was inescapable. I saw it in the way people looked at him, talked to him, and obeyed him out of honour and respect of his character, but never by force. He was a powerful man. He was aware of his power, and he used it to create and provide for himself, his family, and his tightly knit community.
I felt safe, capable, and limitless with him by my side. He taught me to shoot a gun and ride a dirt bike. He attended my fantasy princess parties and basement dance recitals. He showed me that his love was my birthright and that I didn’t have to pretend to be someone or something I was not to receive the respect and loyalty of men. In that same stroke of genius, he instilled in me how perfectly safe and balanced it was to extend that same unconditional energy back to men.
When my father passed away unexpectedly right before my seventh birthday, I felt profoundly untethered as though a fundamental part of me had left along with him. Instead of feeling powerful and capable, my existence felt chaotic and fractured. Those next five years were the darkest years of my life. I became obsessed with his record collection, learned to play his guitar, and wore his old clothes. I experienced what it was to feel deeply alone and a victim until I couldn’t stand it any longer. I came into my teen years dedicated to never again giving my power away like that.
Throughout my youth the majority of my most important friendships had been with guys, the most important was that with my brother. I was a tomboy and loved anything to do with adventure, adrenaline, and competing in a distinctly male area… even if it meant coming in last most of the time. I built strong and meaningful relationships with guys through the honesty of shared passion and a willingness to play full out, throw myself off the same jumps, shoot at the same targets, and push myself past what I thought I was capable of. In the process I got to experience camaraderie, depth, contrast, and true connection with the unfiltered male spirit. It was in these years that I began to feel more at home with and connected to parts of myself that resembled my father and the values he had instilled in me all those years ago.
The most important thing I learnt from spending all that time with guys was that no matter how much we had in common, how much we were able to relate, and how much fun we had together - I was not and would never be ‘one of the guys’. Growing up with a brother who also lost his father at a young age and seeing just how differently the trauma affected us, I was acutely aware of how our biochemistry and brain functioning is intentionally different, by design. Rather than this knowledge increasing feelings of separation for the opposite sex, it merely fuelled my desire to understand more deeply the world of man.
I was 20 years old when I met my husband and we are going on 19 years of marriage. He isn’t like any other man I had met before or any man I have met since. I made a conscious choice the day I married him to see him more deeply and more honestly than anyone I have ever known. Our relationship challenges, pushes, frustrates, excites, fulfills and enriches me. Our love was not found, it was and is continuously created. I see men and women walking away from relationship everyday because they give up on seeing the mystery and miracle inherent in their polarities, and loosing sight of the 99% that we all have in common.
Loosing my father showed me that I could survive loosing the love of my life, my north star, my rock. It taught me that I am resilient and strong and capable of creating anything I truly and honestly want in this life. Not only am I capable of these things but I also carry a responsibility to live my life fully and honestly to honour the fact that my father’s life was cut short. It taught me that I must first seek power and grounding from within and yet, living fully means allowing it to be received and reinforced by the masculine.
Men, I challenge you to wake up to how truly powerful you are because I want to live in a world where men are self-realized and belong first to themselves, second to their families, and ultimately to their tribes. I work with men because this world needs amazing fathers, brothers, sons, and husbands who claim these roles because they want them. Period. Not as women or society thinks you should be, but as you were created to be, and actually are.